How To Keep A Guy Interested In You - No Rules Necessary
By Ann Gee
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you've heard it all before, memorize a bunch of rules in order to get and keep a man interested in you. Sure you can buy into all that nonsense and if you do then there is really no reason to keep reading. You see, I used to be one of those girls. The girl who would frequent my local bookstore sheepishly walking up and down the self help & relationship aisle nervously hoping no one would see me desperately searching for the next best book on what to do and how to act to get and keep a guy interested in me.
I am not saying that all of these kinds of "follow the rules" books are bad or that there is not some truth to what they are proposing. Heck, the bookstore employees knew me by name and in return I was doing my part to bail them out of one of the worse recessions to hit such booksellers ever. So, it couldn't have been all that bad that right? In fact, these so-called relationship books (I don't even have to mention the specific titles) basically subscribe to the theory that dating is like hunting, a game of cat and mouse, the thrill of the kill, if you will. Sounds fun, right? Well, it could be if only it worked!
In other words, follow all these silly rules and play all these stupid roles and you will have a guy begging for your attention. That is unless he finds out exactly what you are up to, what games you are playing, what mantras you are living by, etc. Don't believe me? Check out this review on one of these "hunting books" on a popular bookstore website... "as a man who read this book, I have a new understanding of how and why my last girlfriend acted the way she did... eventually, I got tired of chasing her... eventually I came to the huge realization that I didn't want to live the rest of my life this way, under her thumb, with her making all the rules for our relationship." Oops.
In case you live under a rock or you aren't sure what I'm referring to, here is a small sample of the type of advice contained in some of these hunting books cloaked as dating advice:
- Don't be friends with him.
- Don't call him and rarely return his phone calls.
- Don't talk to him longer than ten minutes on the phone (set a timer).
- Don't leave the house without makeup.
- Don't accept dates for Saturday after Wednesday.
- Don't just read the rules; memorize them.
- Don't discuss the rules with your therapist.
- Don't date a guy who wears a blue wig.
Okay, so I made up the last one but you get the picture, the list goes on and on and on. There are rules for dating, there are rules for when you are in a relationship, and there are rules for after you get married. Just a side note, one of the authors of these books got divorced a few years after her book was published ... Oops again.
So what does this mean for you and me who are looking for a simple and strategic way to get and keep a man interested? For starters, throw away all the rules and/or any variation disguised as rules!
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